Three Steps for How to Be Accountable When You Are Being Bullied

This is step two of our four step process that will dramatically reduce, or eliminate, bullying that is happening to you. Regardless of your age these steps will be effective.

The process is teaching about bullying. Specifically, bullying that is happening to you. Right now it does not matter why this other person or persons is attacking you. It only matters how it makes you feel and what you do about it.

In this discussion we explore how to take accountability for and of your situation. Here is a harsh reality; are you being bullied?

You are responsible for this.

I will not go so far to say that it is your fault. Fault is too judgmental of a word. We want to stay very far away from judging anyone--especially yourself. So before we begin I need a promise from you. Will you not judge yourself?

There is a great chance that you already have been doing this to yourself. Why?

Here is the first step to taking accountability.

Step One

Forgive yourself.

You will notice a theme here in a moment. Forgive yourself for being judgmental regarding you. You are a perfect human being and you need to accept your perfection in every way. Now, if you want to be stronger, prettier, smarter, or take on any other attribute I can guarantee you that it will never happen until you forgive yourself. Forgive for everything!

Close your eyes, take a deep breath in and think of something that happened today or yesterday where you may have come across as being too harsh on yourself. Remember that? Now take another deep breath while holding that action and though in your mind and say "I forgive myself. I allow myself to let go and I forgive myself." Do this again for other actions (or the same one) and you will begin to feel lighter.

Bring presence to your thoughts throughout the day to catch yourself being too harsh. Your work is to catch yourself before you accept any blame or judgment.

Step Two

Forgive others.

I am not sure who you need to forgive--only you know this. Begin to forgive them. Perhaps they are related to you and part of your immediate family. Focus your energy on them, close your eyes, relax and breath. When you are still say "I forgive you. You are doing only the best you can and I forgive you." Do this for as many people as you can right now and come back to this practice often.

Step Three

Forgive your bully.

This may be difficult though if you are able to forgive yourself then this should be possible too, right?

Here is the deal--every person is doing the absolute best they can in the moment. There is no other option. So consider yourself in other people's shoes and explore what it may be like. Perhaps your bully is being beaten at home every evening. Or they are neglected or.... You may have some insights into their home situation. People learn how to behave from their environment. As we grow and gain experiences we are offered new opportunities to learn new behaviors and skills.

Forgive your bully. Relax, close your eyes, and breath. Say, "(their name) I forgive you. I now know you are doing the best you can every moment and you have learned a way of behaving that I dislike. I forgive you for your actions." Do this practice over again and again until you really do forgive them.

The Final Step in this process of taking responsibility is to simply admit that you have been responsible. As we learn to forgive we can realize that other people do not make us happy or sad. We do that. Other people are most interested in themselves and not how you feel or what you think. So it is time for you to believe in yourself. The final practice is this: close your eyes, relax, and breath. Tell yourself, "I create my life. I create the relationships and interactions that I want within my life. I am responsible for my life."

Say this to yourself daily. This accountability piece is very important for the next steps. We must take charge of our life and not play a victim to anything that happens in our world. We create it all.

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